Get your stuff in order, or you will be running the same marathon I am.

April 2, 2025 by Sheryl J. Moore

A lot of you have been wondering how things are going with my Dad.

He is a Navy veteran, who put in 20 years. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in November, at the age of 69.

He has been at the VA hospital since being diagnosed. We are waiting for a bed to open at Iowa’s Veterans Home.

Dad never established a Power of Attorney.

Now, he lacks capacity, so it is too late.

hashtag#TheAlmightyNetwork helped me SO much (thank you!), when it was suggested that I get guardianship and conservatorship.

Thanks to my elder law attorney, Greg Kenyon, we are in the process of getting that.

Warning: drama ahead-

My dad‘s fiancé used to be my mom‘s best friend when they were all in high school together. She worshiped him. Too bad for her that I was conceived.

Aforementioned fiancé recently told me that she doesn’t want to be in charge of Dad anymore. She wants to “be the person that brings him cookies.” They have been together for 12 years, and betrothed for the same amount of time. (Iowa doesn’t have common law marriages.) None of that “sickness and health” stuff…

So, the obligation falls to me. I figure I would want my kids to do it, were it me waiting for an LTC facility…

I am in the midst of trying to find out about my father‘s assets and debts. Yet, I presently have zero power or privilege in accessing information from the companies that he has accounts with.

Need to get to court ASAP. I have to open a new bank account for him. I have to arrange for a prepaid funeral for him. I need to spend-down about $10,000 in assets. I need to transport him to the Veterans Home, which is about 45 minutes away. I need to get updated statements for his accounts. I need to transfer some of his assets. I need to file his taxes. I need to change his mailing address. The list goes on.

I run three businesses, a nonprofit, and a bed-and-breakfast. I have five kids, three dogs, and one smoking hot husband.

Bring it on! if I can live through my son’s suicide, I can handle this.

I appreciate all of your help and support!

Oh- and don’t put off matters like this. Get your stuff in order, or you will be running the same marathon I am. -sjm